Do NOT Say You Miss Me

 You cannot miss me. You might miss the idea of me, but you do not miss me. You lost the right to be able to say that you will miss me when you chose to put distance between us. You do not share your future, your life or your day. You do not include me in your future thinking. You do not want to hear my opinions. You specifically said you want complete independence and to do everything on your own, without including me in any thought process. That is not a relationship. That is not love. You cannot miss me. You lost the right to love and miss me. I will not be blackmailed into another friends with benefits style relationship. I did that in my early to mid twenties, while everyone else was finding their happily ever after. I’m not doing that again. I want a relationship. That is not what we have. I do not miss you. I have compartmentalised everything that we were. We were a relationship for five months. We had future goals and shared dreams. We no longer have that. For a relationship to work, even a long distance one, you have to still have a combined end goal. Your end goal is to die young and alone. That is not a combined end goal. There is no together. There is no shared life. I am not someone that you contact when you are bored, because all of your friends and family members are busy with their partners. A relationship takes work, time and effort. A relationship means sharing your life with one another. We no longer have that. We might, at the very least, have a companionship or a low-effort, casual relationship, but that’s it what I want, nor is it the person that I fell in love with. It hurts when you say, “Stop trying to win me over still, I’m already yours,” because a relationship shouldn’t be about putting effort in to win someone over and then not trying anymore. You don’t make an effort for the first couple of months, make promises and then once you think the person likes you, you break all of the promises and stop making time for them. Again, that isn’t a relationship. That is love-bombing and very friends with benefits. If you don’t want to put in the effort, find someone else who won’t put any effort into being with you. Do not phone me when you are bored and do not say that you miss me!